Dear 5R families,

On Monday we had our first Child Protection lesson. The topic of the lesson was communication. The students discussed three types of communication: aggressive, passive, and assertive.

These are notes we made:

• Aggressive Communication:
  • Threatening
  • Disrespectful (words, tone)
  • Rude (words, tone)
  • Ignoring
  • Physical (punching, hitting, kicking, shoving, choking)
  • Takes care of ME (not taking care of other people)

• Passive Communication:
  • Avoid communicating
  • Ignoring (so that you don’t have to deal with something)
  • Letting people get their way
  • Takes care of OTHERS

• Assertive Communication:
  • Involves both what you say AND how you say it.  Tone of voice matters.  Body language matters.
  • Uses “I” messages in order to communicate what you feel, think or need.  Ex:   “I feel  sad when I hear rude words because they hurt my feelings. I like playing with people who use nice words”, or, “I feel upset when you do not take care of my things because I then need to replace them. I need you to take care of my things like I do if you are going to borrow them.”
  • Includes active listening (listening with your whole self).  This means using good eye contact (not staring or glaring), speaking in a calm, even tone of voice, paraphrasing what you heard the other person say, clarifying anything that is not clear, and asking non-judgmental questions.
  • Can communicate a firm message in a way that gets the point across but helps everyone feel respected.
  • Takes care of EVERYONE

After discussing the different types of communication, we role-played different kinds of communication in everyday situations (i.e. you need to get your pencil back from someone who is using it) and then discussed that you might have to use assertive communication in situations to keep yourself safe.

Our next session will be Thursday.  I will blog again then so that parents stay informed of what we discussed in class.